What I wish

3.5

As one of the kids in an abusive family, I would have rather gone through the hardships of having a single mom than staying in a two parent family.

Growing up in that situation has had lasting lifelong effects that I'm still discovering. My dad wasn't a dad anyway. He didn't teach me anything of value. Never sat me down to give me good advice. Never showed affection. We still didn't have money.

Here's what he did teach me:

1. Never trust anyone.

2. I don't know what love is.

3. I don't know what a healthy relationship is.

4. How to duck.

5. How to be angry.

6. How to be hateful.

7. How to fight.

8. How to feel alone.

9. How to be on guard at all times.

10. How to feel lonely.

11. What transactional love is.

The list goes on. When you stay with an abuser, this is what your kids are learning. This is what your kids will have to learn to live with and overcome while still trying to navigate normal adulthood, their career, and relationships. This is how your kids will parent their children. If they do ever realize what they are doing, it will probably be too late and their kids, your grandchildren will now possess the trauma.

It's extremely important we talk about this so people can learn what abuse does, so people can get help, and stop the generational trauma from being passed down. Please follow my blog page on ittakesjustme.com. Please like and share my posts so we can reach more people. Thank you!