2.8
Yes it was if you ask me and several others. I completely believe my dad murdered my mom. How could it not be? For those of you who have ever watched someone be manipulated, torn down, beaten, abused in any way, you can see their soul break In front of you. Watching this happen sucks out your own soul.
As you watch, you contemplate if you should say something. We all know that often, the messenger is the one who takes the fall. When you confront the abused, they go through several emotions. They hope you didn't notice while at the same time, they want validation that they aren't crazy. They're scared that you found out and maybe you'll say something to the abuser and they'll get the brunt of their wrath.
This is why the abuser isolates their victim.
The abused is afraid of change. But only because they've been told they can't function on their own by the abuser. They were probably also blamed for everything that is wrong in the relationship. Maybe told they are stupid. They haven't been able to be independent, they've been made to look foolish in front of others, they haven't been able to handle cash, make decisions, or figure anything out on their own.
By the time the abused realizes they need to get out, often they are so insecure and worn down, they don't think they can leave, believing they are completely incompetent and usually without any money or means to do so.
This is the exact intent of the abuser. This is pre-planned and pre-meditated. This is exactly what he wanted. It's an amazing amount of people who I've come across that have dementia and have always been abused by their spouses. In a lot of these cases, these victims are dying due to their dementia long before the rest of their body should give out.
Abusers are so focused on weakening and controlling that person and don't care that they are watching them die right before their eyes. In fact they will probably take them to the Dr just so they can say "see, you need my help".
The abuser doesn't for an instant, think they are to blame for this. Unfortunately our medical system completely ignore the facts I gave them about my mom. They just all threw their hands up. Asked me to tell them what I wanted for her. I had to research ony own how to help her, but this is another blog.
So not only did my dad bring her to this state of being and after I had her on a healing path, then he started to stalk her again. He kept looking for opportunities to "accidentally" run into her. And when he did, her mind decided it was the final straw and shut down for good.
Again, this is pre-meditated, this was planned. This is why I say my dad murdered my mom. This is why I have chosen no contact with my dad.
Kommentare